How to celebrate Mother’s Day without a mom.
Many women find happiness, strength and courage within their legacy of loss on Mother’s Day.
Mom died just after my twenty-fifth birthday. I’m 42 years old now. While the pain of mom’s death has gone, my sense of loss is forever in the back of my mind. Yet, I genuinely believe if she hadn’t died before her time, I wouldn’t be the survivor I am. My strong-willed, self-reliant, and fiercely independent nature resulted in a beautiful life.
For me, Mother’s Day starts with a private ritual. I wake early and brew a pot of tea. In the quiet of the early morning, before the household stirs, I sit with mom’s photograph. While sipping tea in her honor, I recap the mother’s year that was.
So, on Mother’s Day, I take strength from my daughters. They’re both secure in their careers, beautifully feminine, and so confident. When they chorus, “Mom, we’re so proud of you,” I like to think my long-dead mother’s approval of the woman I became echos in my daughters’ love and laughter on Mother’s Day.
I lost my mom to a heart attack when I was 30 years old. Her sudden departure from my world caused depths of pain words cannot explain. Even now, thinking about Mom brings tears to my eyes.
What’s more, I’m approaching fifty, the age when she died. The thought of my sudden death inflicting the same pain on my daughter used to keep me awake at night.
That’s why every Mother’s Day, my daughter stands me in front of the hallway mirror and makes me pledge aloud, “My mother’s fate is not my destiny.” Afterwards, she hugs me and then checks my Fitbit statistics.
For me, every Mother’s Day I celebrate is a gift.
5 Super fun Memorial Mother’s Day activities
What if you’re not a motherless mother? Instead, you’re a motherless daughter. How can you honor your departed mom, yet take part in Mother’s Day celebrations? Here are five inspirational ideas to get you posting and sharing with family and friends on this special day.
1. Heaven sent on Mother’s Day
Take a selfie with a family member or friend.
Post it on your socials. “Love to you in heaven, Mom. Happy Mother’s Day.”
2. Shadowbox memories
Break out all those old photographs of mom and yourself. Transform them into something beautiful. Tell your story inside a shadow box. Or choose a favorite Mom quote. Then take a photo and share it on social media. Others will love it too.
3. Say Happy Mother’s Day via a psychic
Why not pass on ‘hello Mom’ in person? Book a reading with a psychic, astrologer or tarot card reader. Even if this isn’t your thing, you’ll have something to chat about afterwards. Take a friend. Who knows, maybe your mom will have a message for you too.
4. Bake Mother’s Day memorial cupcakes
Mother’s Day is not complete without cake. So, why not bake your mom’s number-one cupcake recipe? Add a touch of heaven to the icing with these gorgeous food-safe butterflies. However, before anyone can bite into their scrumptious cupcake, each family member must first share their favorite memory of your mom (Grandma).
5. Mother’s Day memorial
Create a gorgeous memorial space in the garden. Something as simple as adding a bench seat along with a memorial plaque or flag can create a sense of tranquillity. What’s more, you have a place to remember mom anytime, not just on Mother’s Day. Plus, don’t forget to take a selfie and post it to family and friends. Call it, ‘Remembering Mom, with love’.